Giving up the struggle – why letting go of control gives you more control

Updated: Dec 31, 2020

There is no doubt that the human race is phenomenal. The things we have invented, built and achieved over the years are amazing. However, I think there are a few areas where we have got it wrong.


One of these areas is, as a culture, a society, we believe that to create a better life, you need to get rid of negative feelings. We do our upmost to be happy and successful. We also do our upmost to avoid feeling sad, bored, lonely or frustrated. We keep ourselves busy, seek out weekend experiences that will distract us from how we are feeling, or buy new things for ourselves to give us a temporary sense of feeling good. Now, please don’t think I’m judging – I’m as guilty as the next person in doing that, but I also know that this is not the route to happiness or success.